All couples argue. It’s completely normal. On the other hand, conjugal violence is different. It’s when your partner voluntarily chooses to hurt you (psychologically, verbally, economically, physically or sexually) in order to gain power over you. Being a victim has nothing to do with you, because violence is not your fault. If you have any questions about your relationship, do not hesitate to contact us on our 24/7 confidential crisis line at (514) 620-4845, ext. 221. A counselor is always present to answer you. A counselor is always present to answer you.